Flying into El Paso this morning produced a feeling of comfort, excitement, and love all at the same time.
Ash & I were looking over the vast desert and had something bubble inside that made us both just smile at each other.
Our wedding was perfect in my eyes and the weeks that followed have been surreal, but knowing that we were about to step into our first house as owners together made today very special.
It was like today we get to start our lives together as one for real now that the honeymoon is over and that fires us up.
The sermons, talks, Bible studies, books, and thoughts that have been floating around our lives regarding marriage, life, and work are finally able to be put into motion.
It is like we have been putting together a gear for about a year learning where to put all of the pieces so that they can work most effectively, properly, and efficiently, and now the gear is about to start going.
We are so excited to see where that gear needs tweaking and where it is running smoothly, but we can’t figure that out until it starts rolling…which is today.
Our goal is to always remember the purpose of our marriage: to fully present the image of God.
If we can create a safe haven of trust with God at the top, I know that the gear won’t always run perfectly, but I am convinced that it will never stop.
We just got back from Lowe’s for the first time as a married couple and now are owners of a brand stinkin new refrigerator (thanks to Momo & DonDon)!
Thank you for all of your prayers, advice, thoughts, presents, presence, and love – it all begins (again) now…
What has been the most effective “tool” in tweaking your “gear” in your marriage or in a marriage that you have been witness to?
ltlo
death of the self
“if you want to find love/
then look up high and lose yourself/
that’s where you’ll find your help”
from the song “He Sings Right Back”
by mr. mieto
We are glad you are home. The most important “tools” for marriage or any relationship are the THE 4 R’s of Conduct for Husbands, Wives, Teachers, Coaches, Doctors, Children, Auto Dealers, Business People, Ministers and so forth:
RESPECT, RESPONSIBILITY, +RELATIONSHIP, RECOGNITION
RESPECT – You must “tend your nitten”. Have a duty of devotion and regard for the protection of your spouse. You must revere and recognize the human dignity of your spouse.
Golden Rule-“Do unto others as you would want others to do unto you.”
Primum non nocere – “First do no harm to human life.”
RESPONSIBILITY – You have an obligation of oversight for the physical and psychological well being of your spouse and you must develop responsible marriage policies and proper care of your spouse.
+RELATIONSHIP – You should develop a positive relationship with spouse and develop a good level of mutual understanding and trust through good interpersonal communication. LISTEN. BE INTERESTED IN YOUR SPOUSE NOT INTERESTING ABOUT YOURSELF IN CONVERSATION. AFFABLE. Never be negative. Don’t rain on your spouses parade. Devote time for your spouse by learning about your spouse’s interests and concerns. Take personal interest in their plans and their beliefs.
RECOGNITION – Acknowledge, recognize and complement your spouse when they accomplish something special to them. Special one-on-one notice and complementary attention will enhance trust and motivate your spouse. A pat on the the butt goes a long way. You might be fruitful. Hold hands. Stay and Pray together.
And never end a sentence with a preposition.
Love, DocBear
@luke & mr. mieto-thank you for the reminder-I need to hear this every day.
@doc-GREAT advice, I’m so excited to be able to come back to this comment whenever I am struggling to do a quick check. you’ll have to forgive me-grammar ain’t my strong suit, but in regards to the preposition deal-I’ll try not to.
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